Content Labels: Transphobia
"Excuse me?"
I turn around, realizing that's the second time I heard the voice, and it might be directed at me. I make eye contact, and realize the moment is finally here. It's her, the inevitable one I've been expecting, sooner or later.
"Excuse me, but you're in the wrong restroom," she says.
Hoping to end it quickly, I just give her the raised eyebrow and say, "Am I? I don't think so."
I try to step around her, but there's not enough room, and she closes the aisle in front of me. "Yes. You see, the men's room is over that way." She points back the way I came.
"You're right, it is," I answer her. "But I'm not a man." Please, lady, just let me use the bathroom. I mean, I am a little pleased that she thinks I'm a man and not a woman. I'm not even wearing a binder today, and I'm passing masc? At least to her, anyway.
She looks puzzled. How could her gender radar be so far off? "Oh, I'm sorry. You're a woman?" she asks, as if she needs me to verify the answer for her.
Pity I'm not interested in helping her out. "No, I'm nonbinary," I answer. "And I'd like to use the bathroom. Would you move out of my way, please?"
"But do you have a... a penis or... or boobs?" she asks. Because vulva or vagina are certainly not words in her vocabulary.
Of course, I know several people with both a penis and boobs, but that's not what she's really asking. And it's not her business. "The only people that need to know what's under my clothes are my doctors and my sexual partners," I give her. "Are you hitting on me? In the bathroom?"
That got the panicked reaction I was ready for. "Oh, no, you see..."
Okay, I'm done. "I'm going to go to the bathroom. In a stall. On a toilet. Move out of my way. Now." I step forward, not exactly threateningly, but not like a friend, either. Thank goodness, she backs off and lets me pass.
I go to the bathroom, giving it plenty of time for her to either wander off and leave me alone, or to go find Security or someone to yell at me for using the wrong bathroom. I finish up, wash my hands, and cautiously open the door. Ah, no one's there.
This time.